March is Women's history month and it's nice to think that after having a month where I get to celebrate my melanin I get to celebrate a history of colorful ovaries.
Being a woman has got to be one of the most difficult roles of life. Dealing with men, aunt flo, cramping, pregnancy, and menopause just to start off with. Oy Vey!! I think we deserve a medal the moment we come out of the womb. And on it should say "welcome and I'm sorry all the pain you are about to endure". But it's all good, because if our mother can go through it, we can too...right?
While celebrating my thirties, I'm still waiting to see if I'll end up in one of the group of friends from insecure, girlfriends, or sex and the city. I've always seen those beautiful, strong and supportive friendships on tv, but what I'm realizing is that friendships are not what they once were. Or maybe I'm just a horrible friend [quite likely]. In this world of #girlbosses I would love to see more #girlbossfriendships.
Don't get me wrong, I have more female friends that I ever thought I would. But with the digital age being what it is, relationships, friendships, even families don't seem to run as thick as they once did or is it just me? I want to see friendships like my mother and aunt [we all have that fake aunt that has just been deemed family]. My mother and aunt are like Lucy and Ethel. You don't see one without the other. These two may argue, fight, disagree, and give each other stank stares, but better believe in thirty minutes they are back on the phone like they don't see each other every day. My aunt, Mona, lives on the fifth floor of our five floor walk up, while my mom lives on the second floor. They have been friends since junior high school and are still thick as thieves. I see their beautiful relationship and pray that I get blessed with one like that. I have friends and best friends but our relationship does not compare to the one that they have.
What happened to the strong female groups? Have we been trying to reach the top and outdo the man that we have pushed our sisters to the side? Did we trade the girls' night out for the seat at the sports bar with the fellas?
As I have gotten older I know I yearn for that female companion more and more. Someone who is creative, smart, dorky, a clown, supportive, a hustler and of course always by my side. I know this description makes it sound like I'm looking for a life partner than a friendship but, I think it's the same no?
I'd like to be Joan in Girlfriends, the girl who wants to make everyone happy but is still figuring out life. While having Mya, Toni and Lynn keep her grounded, remind her of who she is, and keep her going. Or Carrie in Sex and the City, the hopeless romantic but realist who has a slew of friends but needs her core crew, Charlotte, Samantha, and Miranda to giver her the strength she needs and a good cocktail to get through a shitty day.
But to those women who have a strong tribe, a support group, drinking buddies, 911 phone calls, and texting you just to send a funny emoji, this post is to you. You don't need a holiday to celebrate the V, you don't need a month when we should be celebrating everyday. We are the beginning and end of humanity and we must always remember that. So take each moment to celebrate with you sister, push her forward and not to the side.
And with this I wish you a Happy Women's Awareness Month!